Sunday, October 3, 2010

On girl-crushes

I have a girl-crush, on a guy.

You all know what a girl-crush is, don't you? When a girl meets another girl and the chemistry is just right, the talking goes very smooth, and you just want to be best friends forever (I'm not using the abbreviation BFF, because I've friends who use that in a completely different context...). Basically, it's the friend-equivalent of "love at first sight".

I've always thought that this only worked with girl and girl, since it would automatically lead to "potential love interest" problems if it was a girl and a guy, but that is not the case here. He is cute and adorable and everything, but I am pretty sure he was gay. And even if he wasn't, it doesn't really matter. It was still a BFF (not BFF) kind of connection.

The problem with girl-crushes is that they often entail the same problems as regular crushes. "Is she (now he) as interested as I am?"; "Should I call her (him), or will that be too pushy?"; "What if she (he) isn't as into giraffes as I am?" (or is this just me...?)

In the end this was probably just a girl-fling on a boy. It won't grow into girl-love. I probably won't see him all that much, and come to think of it, I can't call him, because I don't have his number (though I can Facebook him, but I am thinking that would be a little creepy, since we don't really know each other that well).




































I predict that 97% of the males reading this entire post did so because they hoped "girl-crushes" would be described in a somewhat graphic way.

I also predict that 78% of the readers (of both genders) only scrolled down this far in hope that I would explain the alternative usage of the abbreviation BFF...






Sorry...
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21 comments:

Boonie S said...

“All the best women are married, all the handsome men are gay” – except me. But that quote must be correct because Robbie Williams said it.

Have a nice, unconfused day, Boonie
PS: I've just read your predictions. What kind of folks do you think we are? I for one am perfectly perfect....

welcome to my world of poetry said...

I had a best friend at school but apart from that I am perfect normal....whatever normal may be.

Have a good day.
Yvonne.

Gorilla Bananas said...

I assure you, Miss, that I am not one of the 97%. Platonic love is a beautiful thing, so I hope your friendship blossoms and you can resist the temptation to touch his bottom.

Alexandra Crocodile said...

I had a huge girl crush last summer. It was glorious, and we both felt the same way. If only we were gay...

Clarissa Draper said...

Hmmm, I'm not sure I've ever felt that way before but that's cool. were there suppose to be pics in the post? None showed.

Have a great Sunday!

CD

Jemi Fraser said...

LOL :)

Hope you have a wonderful Sunday - although I guess yours is half over by now!

LTM said...

I'm so confused... So you've *currently* got a girl-crush on a guy who is or was gay? (Is there such a thing as *was* gay? I thought that was sort of... permanent--?)

OK, my two cents: just be yourself. If he's gay he loves you already--you're so smart and hilarious. And even if he's not, still just be yourself. Guys are super-easy friends. Zero subtext.

Unless he's gay. Then there's the cattiness... And well, even if he's not gay, I'm on Harry's side. (When Harry Met Sally...) If you get along too well, well... it's coming--look out! ;p <3

nonamedufus said...

I scrolled down to the bottom and...you're a tease.

H.B.Markor said...

I'm no statistic! I always scroll down for the comments.

Good luck with your friend crush, I hope he has all the giraffiness you can stand!

HulaBuns said...

I really like the prediction percentages, so specific, yet they're only predictions. lol

I predict that 100% of people that read this post will agree with your predicted percentages and with the content of the post. Also, good luck with the girl-crush that's really a boy. You'll have to keep us all updated on how it goes. :)

Sandra said...

Nope, I read because I could totally relate. I also have a girl crush and fortunately it's a mutual thing. We are both happy and plan to run off into the sunset together while our respective boyfriend/husband pout in the distance.

Pat Tillett said...

I totally agree that this is a "real" thing. I've had several platonic crushes on members of the opposite sex...
good post!

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

No, I read it just because I was curious...

Kelly said...

Hey, I only scrolled down because I was looking for the comments!!

I think I know exactly what you're talking about on all counts.

adam.purple said...

Still scrolling...

Bridge Marie said...

haha, cute, I've had those friend crushes before. It's not romantic, you just want to be friends. Unfortunately for me, it seems like half the time I have a real crush the guy ends up being gay so... new gay guy friend, which is endlessly awesome, but the other type of guy would be good ocassionally...

Missed Periods said...

That's so true. Even if it's just someone you have friend chemistry with, you are worried about whether or not to call or not. Chemistry is funny stuff.

Cold As Heaven said...

I'm not interested in girl crushes at all, so guess I must be one of the remaining 3% >;)

Cold As Heaven

Astrid said...

Hehe... all my girl crushes have developed into girl-relationships. I have a few best friends, one of which is a gay man (I think of him as my little brother). And I've had a few good male, platonic friendships, thought those you have to be careful they don't sour :S

The Golden Eagle said...

I read it because I was interested; I've never felt that way about anyone.

Cruella Collett said...

Tee hee - you guys make me giggle. Too bad I am too "usy" to reply properly to comments, because we have some gems on this one (*blows raspberries to those pretending not to fit my prediction stats*)

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