Saturday, October 29, 2011

On wordless week

I was blogging according to the NaBloWriMo schedule. And then I wasn't. Suddenly, I stopped.

I've never not completed a blog challenge I've committed to before. I've written short and/or crappy posts, yes, but I still posted daily. This time I didn't. Not because I couldn't. Not because I didn't have the time. I have had less time than usual this week, but I still would have found a way if I wanted to. But I didn't want to. So I stopped.

I hardly think anyone missed me. Even the eager readers that still stop by here every now and then out of old habit, won't have minded a few days off. Let's face it, there isn't people out there whose happiness relies on daily posts from me. The only person whose happiness that should be even remotely tied to that, is my own. And I didn't miss me either.

Blog challenges often suit me, because I have a talent for writing about nothing. Spinning yarn from imaginary wool, it's my thing. But really. Sometimes the world only needs so much yarn.

I've lately pondered the concept of talking about nothing. Of talking to, or with, someone if you don't really have anything to say. In relationships, romantic ones or friendships, this can be crucial. Few have so much happening in their lives that they constantly find topics to talk to their spouses with. And so the ability to make meaningful conversation over small things - things that doesn't matter - becomes important.

Blog wise, I'm not sure the same applies. It does if you insist on blogging daily. You will inevitably run into a dry spell, and unless you are willing to repeat yourself, it is highly likely that you'll have to result to a few posts about nothing.

If you don't insist on posting daily, however, many would benefit from posting only when they actually have something to say. And by "many", I mean me. Naturally there will still be the occasional "nothing"-post - I am me, after all - but I think I am done with blog challenges for now. When I first got into them, they were a brilliant way of practicing dependability. Learning how to post daily. Later ones were brilliant networking-wise. Finding new blogs, earning new followers. And some of the blog challenges have been tests for myself, to see how much I can realistically expect to achieve when I deliberately put too much on my plate.

This last one, however, may be the most important of all. It taught me that I have finally found a mode of blogging I am comfortable with. I don't feel the pressure to post daily, or on a regular basis. I don't feel the need to follow any blog "rules". I won't visit more blogs than I have the time to, and then only the ones I want to visit. I don't do pity-visits, and certainly hope no one does to me.

If I have nothing to say, I won't blog. Unless I want to say something about nothing.


Jan Morrison said...

Brilliant! I concur although I will make it through blogging daily. I think the main thing for me was to give myself a theme that was meaningful to my writing life - the dear journal approach did that. It kept me with my process even through days that I didn't feel like being there. (this last lost week being one of them) I have been thinking about all sorts of disciplines lately and how if they are empty - they are meaningless. Sounds obvious - but I guess I mean the form isn't enough. I've been meditating for years - in the past year I've tried to make sure that is daily - I had gotten up to 159 days of regular sitting (sometimes ten minutes - sometimes an hour)and I was pretty pleased with it. Then my sacroiliac pain or however the hell you spell that hell happened and in the last week I missed four sitting days. I was so upset until I thought - it doesn't matter. That isn't why I sit- so I can brag on my regular practice. I want to continue to do it but not give myself empty notions of why. Oh, this is too complicated but I sense you know what I mean. I love reading your posts - I don't notice if you write every day and I don't care. My best friends don't call me every day, sometimes even my sweet patootie and I can go for awhile without REALLY connecting. Phah! love ya toots!

Southpaw said...

I hear that! Blogging should be fun and enjoyable, but for me when I start thinking about all the blogs I haven't (ahem) been to in a while I feel guilty. Well, felt. I'm trying to change that.

mshatch said...

sounds like a good plan - especially the part about limiting the nothing post.

Susan Gourley/Kelley said...

I feel my blogs have been less than 'deep or constructive' posts lately.
I was out of town or I might have missed you.

Alex J. Cavanaugh said...

That's why I only post three times a week. I've never NOT had a clue what I was going to blog about and usually I have to chuck some good ideas. And I always have fun!

Danette said...

It's interesting that we start some things that are fun and then we hang obligation on to it and before you know it, we don't enjoy it anymore. Life (and blogging) should be enjoyable and those things that are just (or become) obligation should be reevaluated. Good reminder.

Cold As Heaven said...

I post irregularly, and only when I want to write something. Don't want to have a regular scheme.

Cold As Heaven

Kelly said...

I think realizing I didn't have to comment on or even read every post from the blogs I follow was a very liberating thing for me. So.... when I do leave one here you know it's because I was interested enough to do so, not to just say "I was here".

Patricia Stoltey said...

I think you're very wise, and I think I'll follow your good example (especially during November since I'm doing NaNoWriMo).

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